Domestic Violence Protections
Written in plain language for general understanding. This is educational content, not legal advice. Based on federal statutes and official sources.
What is this right?
If you are a victim of domestic violence, powerful federal and state laws protect you. The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), 34 U.S.C. § 12291 et seq., is the primary federal law. Originally passed in 1994 and reauthorized in 2000, 2005, 2013, and 2022, VAWA funds services for victims, strengthens criminal penalties, and provides important immigration protections.
Every state has laws allowing victims to get protective orders (also called restraining orders or orders of protection). These court orders can require the abuser to stay away from you, leave a shared home, and have no contact with you or your children. Violating a protective order is a crime. Under the federal Full Faith and Credit provision (18 U.S.C. § 2265), a protective order issued in any state must be enforced in every other state.
Federal law also prohibits anyone subject to a domestic violence protective order or convicted of a misdemeanor domestic violence offense from possessing firearms (18 U.S.C. § 922(g)(8)-(9)).
Immigration protections: If you are an immigrant married to a U.S. citizen or lawful permanent resident who is abusing you, VAWA allows you to self-petition for legal residency without your abuser's knowledge or cooperation. You do not need your spouse to sponsor you. The U-visa program also provides immigration relief for victims of certain crimes, including domestic violence, who cooperate with law enforcement.
When does it apply?
This right applies when:
- You are experiencing physical, sexual, emotional, or economic abuse by a current or former spouse, partner, or household member
- You need immediate protection — an emergency or temporary protective order
- You are an immigrant whose spouse or partner is using your immigration status to control or threaten you
- You need help with emergency housing, legal services, or counseling related to domestic violence
- Your abuser has firearms and you want them removed
Common misconceptions:
- "Domestic violence only means physical hitting" — No. Domestic violence includes threats, intimidation, stalking, emotional abuse, financial control, and sexual assault by a partner or household member.
- "Men can't be victims of domestic violence" — VAWA protections apply regardless of gender. Men, women, and non-binary individuals are all protected under the law.
- "If I don't press charges, there's nothing I can do" — You can get a civil protective order even if you choose not to pursue criminal charges. Civil and criminal proceedings are completely separate.
- "A protective order is just a piece of paper" — Violating a protective order is a criminal offense. Under the Full Faith and Credit provision (18 U.S.C. § 2265), your protective order is enforceable in every state. Violators can be arrested and jailed.
- "If I'm undocumented, I can't get help" — VAWA specifically protects immigrant victims. You can self-petition for legal residency and may qualify for a U-visa, regardless of your current immigration status.
What should you do?
Step 1: If you are in immediate danger, call 911. Your safety is the top priority.
Step 2: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE) or text START to 88788. Trained advocates are available 24/7 in over 200 languages. They can help with safety planning, shelter referrals, and legal resources.
Step 3: Go to your local courthouse and request a protective order. Most courts have a simplified process for emergency (ex parte) orders, which can be granted the same day without the abuser being present. You do not need a lawyer to file.
Step 4: Document the abuse. Keep a record of every incident — write down dates, times, and what happened. Save threatening texts, voicemails, and emails. Photograph injuries. Get medical treatment, which creates official records.
Step 5: Contact a local domestic violence organization for free help. Many offer free legal representation, emergency shelter, counseling, safety planning, and help in multiple languages. The National Hotline can connect you with local resources.
Step 6: If you are an immigrant victim, consult with an immigration attorney about the VAWA self-petition or U-visa. Many legal aid organizations offer free immigration help for DV victims. The National Immigrant Women's Advocacy Project (NIWAP) can connect you with local resources.
What should you NOT do?
Don't confront the abuser about the protective order. Let law enforcement serve the order. Confrontation can escalate the danger and put you at greater risk.
Don't violate your own protective order. If you contact the person the order protects you from, it can weaken your case and complicate future legal proceedings. If you want to modify or drop the order, go through the court.
Don't assume the abuse will stop on its own. Research consistently shows that domestic violence escalates over time. Getting help early is critical.
Don't stay silent because of immigration status. VAWA specifically protects immigrant victims. You can self-petition for legal residency without the abuser finding out. Reporting abuse will not lead to deportation proceedings under current VAWA protections.
Don't leave without a safety plan. Leaving an abusive relationship is the most dangerous time. Work with a domestic violence advocate to create a plan that includes a safe place to go, essential documents, money, and a way to communicate safely.
How Delaware differs from federal law
Delaware provides strong domestic violence protections:
- Victims can obtain a Protection from Abuse (PFA) order from the Family Court
- Temporary (ex parte) orders are available and effective immediately
- PFA orders can include no-contact, exclusive possession of the home, temporary custody, and firearms surrender
- Violating a PFA order is a Class A misdemeanor (first offense) — can be a felony for subsequent violations
- Delaware mandates arrest for domestic violence when the officer finds probable cause
Additional Steps in Delaware
Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233. Delaware Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-701-0456. File for a PFA at Family Court.
Relevant Law: Del. Code tit. 10, § 1041 et seq. (Protection from Abuse Act).
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